Sample Questions for Peace and Possibility

Here are some Sample Questions people have created for the Questions for Peace & Possibility Component of the Blueprint of We.

We’d love to have you add your own to this list as we compile an ever-growing list of Questions and Statements for everyone to have access to as samples.

Feel free to use any of these for your own Documents, remembering that they will only be useful if they truly resonate with you. Your Questions have to be personal and specific for them to pull you out of a stressful place.

• What do I need when I’m feeling weak to get back to feeling strong?

• Who and what are my safety nets in this situation?

• When have I been in the presence of your best?

• What is the other side of this?

• What do I want more of now?

• What is it that you have wanted or want now in this situation?

• What is out of sync that is so upsetting?

• What were your expectations?

• In what ways are you upset with yourself about this situation?

• What did or didn’t happen?

• What’s important about working this out?

• What can we give more of right now?

• Can I tell you straight what is upsetting to me right now?

• How is my safety being threatened?

• How is my desired outcome being threatened?

• What is the worst/best thing that can happen if my desired outcome does/does not occur? And, that means what?

• Can we take a moment to center? Hug?

• Can we remember that we adore each other?

• What choices do we have here?

• What is this feeling reminding you of?

• What’s my contribution to this?

• What energy do I need now and who can I invite in right now?

• Are you showing up now the way you want to?

• What’s the fear behind the fear?

• What if you knew you were completely safe?

• Is this in our circle of influence?

• What could be good about this?

• What do you need to feel safe?

• How would you like things to be?

• How are we creating authentic space for one another?

• What do you need to remember to do that is healthy for you?

• What do you need to remember about yourself right now?

• BREATHE.

• Is this a good time to have this conversation?

• We grant each other permission to speak freely without adverse consequences

• What do you see that is really going on here? i.e. – what’s happening – the bigger truth and the real concerns?

• Where is your compassion in this situation – for whom, why, how?

• What do you think the other person(s) is really thinking?

• What do you want?’ What would be the ultimate outcome for you?

• What don’t you want?

• What is your real intention here?

• What would you like the other person(s) to know?

• Do you want our relationship to continue after this issue?

• What happens if I screw this up – what are the consequences?

• What are the underlying fears in this?

• What is the worst that could happen and could this be rectified?

• Is our relationship in danger of falling apart? What do you need for harmony and authenticity here?

• What is the importance of this?

• What do you love / admire / respect about me?

• What is the real time frame?

• What issues past and present are entangled here?

• What assumptions do you have with respect to me?

• How have you been taking me in?

• What is important to you to hear?

• If there was something you were really longing for in this, what is it?

• What truth do each of us need to tell?

• What is my intention?

• Are there other ways we can get our needs meet?

• What are you telling yourself about yourself in this situation…? …is it true?

• What are my fears?

• How am I making this mean about me?

• Where have I displayed this same quality in my life?

• What’s the elephant in the room?

• What need of yours is being met holding this belief? Or acting in this way?

• Let’s takes a deep breath.

• Is this a good time to talk about this? Should we schedule another time?

• How is my safety being threatened?

• What would Buddha/Martin Luther King/Gandhi/Mother Theresa/Nelson Mandela, etc. do?

• What could we / I let go of in order to move forward?

• Why is this important?

• Does it have to be like this? What are some other possibilities? What is stopping you from doing one of the other possibilities?

• What moves you to hold on to this?

• What are your priorities at the moment?

• What truth do you / I need to tell?

• How does this issue tie in with your/our values?

• Does money come into this? How?

• Can this be thought through with a walk in nature?

• Are current targets and focuses realistic? Should we update them?

• What are you / am I afraid of?

• What are 5 positive things about this situation / person?

• What do you want to achieve here/in this situation?

• Where are you? Where did you just go besides here?

• Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? What can we do to address these before we continue?

• What’s hurting you?

• What do you/I need right now? Overall?

• (Insert other person’s name) is not the enemy. They love you. Can you see them?

• What do you need from me?

• What do you want the other person to know and understand?

• Are you misreading the other person or the situation?

• What’s your story about this?

• Tell the other person what you’re thinking and check out wether it’s true.

• What do you think the other person’s story is? How accurate is that? Check in.

• How can you say what you’re thinking in a loving, non-judgmental, uncritical way? Because you know that saying it in a mean way just won’t work.

• What would it look like for you to choose peace?

• How else can you choose to see this?

• How can you regain your peace in this moment even if nothing else, or no one else changes?

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