How to Stop the Pain and Design What's Next
We've been brought up to believe that the end of a relationship means it failed.
But it's not the truth.
Our legacy relationship models don't teach us how to gracefully transition in and out of relationships, and with this, we've tied our self esteem to how long the relationship lasts.
We think a relationship is over when it ends, but as long as you can call up a memory of someone, you are still in relationship with them. Whether the person remains in your real life or just in your mind, you can make it a peaceful or painful relationship.
When we begin a relationship, we either mindfully or inadvertently create a Relationship Container—the definition, characteristics and agreements we step into. When a relationship feels the weight of stress, it's typically a sign that the relationship container needs to be mindfully re-designed to better feed the people involved.
Two Most Important Things
When Transitioning a Relationship
Don't avoid stress. Use it to calm your messy mind.
Design a new Relationship Container that fits who you are.
CHOOSE A TRACK TO BEGIN
Our brains determine our action and reaction to everything from how other people behave to the thoughts that keep us up at night. When our messy mind interacts with others, both people protect rather than connect.
Don't avoid the stress of transition. Learn to use it to build a clear mind so what to design next rises up in you. Use this transition to your advantage.
A great piece of furniture or the simple elegance of a smartphone app. Both benefit from great design. Our relationships are no different.
Mindfully design your way forward, together and apart.
The Blueprint of We is a design document for people. From couples to families, any number of people can quickly come together to design their relationship and move at the speed of trust.
The Relationship Transition Story
of our Co-Founder, Maureen McCarthy
How her own transition pioneered a relationship design phenomenon
Maureen has a rare, fatal lung disease, and the year her doctors told her she would die, she attempted to gracefully come out of her 10-year marriage. Our culture sets people up to become enemies through the process, but Maureen was determined to design a new way to build and transition relationships with more connection and peace.
Listen to her story...
We Are Wired to Connect
Designing healthy interactions begins by creating healthy minds.
Our brains have two main functions that have emerged through millions of years of evolution—to connect us and to keep us safe.
Our society has made our Safety Brain neural networks our main mode of interaction. In keeping the Connected Brain as a secondary mode, we restrict our creativity, productivity, and resiliency.
It's time to turn down the volume on the Safety Brain and use it as the messenger it is meant to be.