Relationships can easily be destroyed by the effects of bipolar disorder.
Mania promotes excessive spending of finances and a distortion to one's perception of reality and sense of self that can destroy the relationship's sense of security, stability and comfort.
Mania and depression are both destructive to the emotional connection between two people who really love each other. They can lead to isolation, intense fighting, domestic violence, angry resentment, emotional and physical neglect, feelings of incredible loss, pain, rage etc.
Mania can often lead to infidelity or sexual behaviors that are beyond the comfort and boundaries of the relationship.
Many times couples come into therapy when they are at their wits end and ready to give up. The relationship is beyond healing at this point. Often times its too late to save the marriage or relationship.
In this case, therapy focuses on developing a plan for a functional separation.
I encourage couples suffering with Bipolar Disorder to come into therapy as a preventative measure. If you are considering marrying someone with Bipolar Disorder or if you're beginning to notice any of the feelings or behaviors above and you want to preserve the marriage or relationship. Therapy can be crucial at this time.
Coming into therapy early gives the couple preventative tools for living with Bipolar Disorder before it becomes destructive.
Some examples of what we may do in therapy if it fits your reslationship are:
- Increase awareness of the disorder
- Explore the effects it is having on your relationship
- Develop tools for possible relapse prevention or minimization
- A financial and emotional plan of protection against mania and depression
- Support and release for the stress and destructive emotions that mania and depression create
- Promote medication compliance
- Managing Bipolar Disorder through strengthening the foundation and structure of the relationship
- Support for both partners
- Increasing self care and self soothing practices.